Throughout our lives, we develop automated responses and coping mechanisms to deal with various fears and challenges. Many of these reactions were set in place during a time when we were small, afraid or lacked the understanding to handle the situation. But even as we grow and learn, we often forget to revisit these reactions with new information, and allowing them to run on autopilot, without regard for new context. This often results in a chaotic and contradictory mess of reactivity that leaves us feeling frustrated, anxious & helpless.
This is not how it has to be. There is a better way and it is right in front of each of us, we just need a new perspective.